5 Principles

Navigating Change

If humans are plants, then mindfulness is phototropism, (the ongoing process of growing towards the light). Yet unlike plants, moving towards the

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Are You Up for a Challenge?

How can we keep things fresh, awake, when our working days or lives look much the same, week in, week out? Or when we find that even with regular practice, we don’t seem to be going anywhere?

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So tell me what you want, what you really, really want!

When I start a meditation retreat these days, I know it takes me quite a while to calm the system down from living and working with technology. In those first few days, the levels of nervousness and agitation are much more than 16 years ago. It’s because I’m on the computer and on social media much more now.

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How Our Stories F@*! With Us

Many of us are living and working in different ways, and yet something hasn’t changed: we’re still prone to our internal dialogues about what’s going on around us, and within us.

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What I Never Asked My Dad – And Why it Matters Now

I don’t have full recall of that evening, and yet obviously either I didn’t ask, or he didn’t give much of an answer. So, something in me doesn’t expect much of an answer, doesn’t expect to get to the bottom of things. It might be family or cultural conditioning, of course, and yet the why is no longer relevant.

As a spiritual warrior, having seen the pattern, the idea is to see what happens when we consciously try to do something different.

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Learning To Speak Up for Myself

Partly from seeing the different effects of these experiments, I’ve noticed how powerful words can be when we’re in conversations.

Now, I try to be more skillful and flexible when talking with other people.

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I Don’t Have Time to Be Compassionate

I admitted that I find myself walking through the school halls, head down, hoping no one will talk to me – not because I don’t like them, but because I’m thinking “If I talk to them I won’t get to what I need to do to start my day”.

When I’m in this mode, I’m not being kind to myself and I don’t notice what others need, whether it’s just a smile or a few minutes of my time.

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Why You Should Zen-Up Your Space

There’s another benefit to a well-honoured space: it brings out all of our hidden fidgets, shining a light on our inability to sit still. When there’s clutter, anxiousness can hide under the auspices of needing to clean and tidy and organize.

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Don’t you smell that, too? – I think we need to talk.

One thing that can happen when you think there’s an unacknowledged stink in the room is that doubt can creep in. Nobody else is mentioning it, after all! Although I want to say something, I’m questioning whether it’s just my reaction and maybe there’s nothing going on at all.

I have a way of dealing with this.

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